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IMPORTANT (TO ME) JUNE BIRTHDAY
June is the month of my daughter's birth. She, of course, changed my life with her entrance into the world, as did my son. I love them both so very much; I'm so happy to have had the chance to be a mother, to them, and to my other son, my "step-son". How did that come about? One "step" away? Perhaps. All I know is the heart loves who it loves, and my heart is filled with these three.
My daughter is, for me, more than a child of mine. She is always teaching me to reach for new levels in not only being a mother, but becoming a friend. As a parent, friendship is difficult to cultivate with your child because it's hard not to see all the stages of their lives and judge accordingly. Yet, this year especially, I have learned that I can move into a friendship with my daughter that doesn't take the place of being her mother, but allows us to move into a new place of trust and acknowledgement of her as an adult and me being less judgy. I started going to a therapist in my role as a mother of adult children, to help in this transition because I love my kids so very much and realized I was having a hard time moving beyond being their mother. It isn't that they don't "need" me anymore that way. It's more about learning that I am more than a mother to them and to myself. I want to "be" in their lives, but don't need it the way I thought I did. Basing my worth on them and how they "turned out." I like when they want to call me, or see me. Yet my whole being is not based solely on them and their existence and what they do or don't do. Taking a step away and seeing them as separate from myself has been scary, and healing, and exciting. Old dogs can learn new tricks!
Happy birthday my lovely young woman. I literally love all of you!
My lovely one and all of her selves!
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I am happy! Amidst preparing for travel, amidst life and it's good and bad challenges, I have made time to write! I'm coming back into it gently, trying not to judge and enjoy the feeling of what I have inside me and on "paper". Whew, I am thankful for finding again a love of the story. Writing is not an easy trek and can be so incredibly frustrating. Yet the high when the writing comes is like nectar, making the drinker want to taste more. So this post will be short because I want to go write other things. I just wanted to share this with those who understand. Sometimes something happens and something clicks and a burden is lifted. This happened to me. Thank you H.C. for being that something.
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The awesome co-hosts for the June 5 posting of the IWSG are
Liza at Middle Passages, Shannon Lawrence, Melissa Maygrove, and Olga Godim!
PLEASE GO VISIT AND THANK THEM FOR CO-HOSTING THIS MONTH!
Have you ever tried VR (virtual reality) goggles? Have you ever flown a drone? I was lucky enough yesterday to try both…and both are mind bending. I started with the drone, here in the Blue Ridge mountains near Asheville, so you understand it’s already gorgeous. Flying the drone was the closest I’ve come to flying with both feet on the ground. If you are a writer, have you ever had that feeling of “liftoff “ when your characters take the story into their own hands and you do all you can to keep up? That is what flying the drone felt like. Freedom with the illusion of control.
Using the VR goggles was even more mind bending because even though it’s supposed to be virtual reality, it’s somehow more encompassing than real reality because in real life you move your self, your body, within the real world. In VR, the world moves around you and you have to fit your self, your body, into that moving world. So much like writing where you are aware of every single word and how it carries the story, or doesn’t. You have to make things fit and you have to change even the settings if the story doesn’t flow any number of times. Flying with your feet on the ground.
I recommend trying both and see how it bends your mind and makes you think differently about your body, your place in the world, and, how you build your stories.
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Here are our co-hosts this month! Please go by and thank them for being so supportive of all of us!!
https://www.victoriamarielees.com/
https://nancygideon.blogspot.com/
http://cathrinaconstantine.blogspot.com/
Sorry about the format this month! Working from my IPad and don’t have a mouse! And, somehow this didn’t post yesterday when I set the time! Grrrr.
Happy May everyone!
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Flowers from my garden to yours. |
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The Blue Ridge Mountains |
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Me VR-ing!!! |
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After! We didn't want his face changed much, so I think she did a good job. |