Wednesday, December 02, 2015

My Son's Birthday, and IWSG Wednesday December 2, 2015


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Tristan on his wedding day
Today is my son's 29th birthday. Happy Birthday Tristan! I am sad I won't be with you to share it, but I will think of you and of course call.
Thinking of the very big year of change both he and my daughter have had (both got married!), made me think of how change is a part of growth both for my kids and my other "babies" my novels, especially the works in progress.

My children and my wip's are not at all the same and yet they share characteristics. They were/are both "birthed" by me. They all have "minds" of their own. They all test my limits. And they all make me smile and frown. And the biggest thing they have in common is that I am in love with all of them, my kids and my books. Yes, for different reasons, but I still am totally smitten by each of them.
The one thing that my books do not share with my kids, is that my children (if we parents have done our jobs) are in a constant and necessary state of change while my novels, once they are "Done" "Finished" "Published" are not. My published novels will forever stay in the state they are in (unless someone buys the movie rights!) because I will not go back and change them. As a writer I work to recognize when a novel is finished. As a mother I hope my children are never finished, that they continue to grow and change all of their lives.
I am happy to be a mom and a writer. Each of my "babies" take/took A LOT of time and sweat equity to create. They have all frustrated and soothed me. They all make my life worth living.

Before I finish today, I would like to apologize to my blogging friends and followers. I have not posted much since the last IWSG, and especially, I was supposed to do a post for a friend (Chrys Fey) that I did not get to (I did tweet), and I am soooo sorry. I promise you Chrys, if/when you need me to do something else after Christmas, I will be all over it.

Also, it looks like Chrys's book "30 Seconds" is still on sale so click on Chrys Fey to find out how to order.
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  1. Hi Lisa - you've had a busy year .. with both children being married and starting new lives with their partners. Then your books - so much happening for you with those ... but as you say once they're done - they are finished "The End" has happened. I expect Chrys will forgive you too!

    Good luck for the coming month and next year ... cheers Hilary

  2. Very cool commemoration for your son. Watch, he'll be 30 before you know it! :)

  3. Hmm. How are my children and book alike? I haven't really thought of comparing them like that before. I don't think my books exhaust me like my kids unless I'm looking for typos for the umpteenth time.

  4. Great post, wonderful analogy between your kids and your books and so true. How very wise of you.
    Juneta @ Writer's Gambit

  5. Happy Birthday to your son! I understand how proud he must make you! Children are indeed one of life's greatest joys, greatest accomplishments. And our other "babies" - our books - are important in their own unique way. And most certainly, all can test our limits!

  6. Happy birthday to your son! You should be proud of your kids. All of them.
    I'm sure Chrys understands.

  7. I never thought about how my WIPs are like my kids. At least my books don't get upset with me when I yell at them. :)

  8. Anonymous3:25 PM

    Happy Birthday to your son! I agree — children and WIPs are extremely hard work. Bringing them into the world and launching them successfully are monumental tasks, but life wouldn't be life without them. Good luck with your writing projects!

  9. My kids are constantly amazing me with all their changes. Funny how I don't feel like I ever change though. Yay for all your published works. Sometimes blogging takes a back seat to enjoying real life :)

  10. I like the similarities between raising children and writing a book. Funny that I didn't notice. :-)

    Anna from Elements of Writing

  11. Happy Birthday to Tristan. It would be dreadful if you had to keep going back and altering your books. I cannot imagine anything worse.

  12. Anonymous9:44 PM

    Happy Birthday to your son!! I don't post anything outside of IWSG anymore; just not enough time. And don't beat yourself for missing stuff . . . we're all guilty :-)

  13. Hi human, Lisa,

    I think your analogies are pawesome, my kind human friend. Happy belated birthday to your son, Tristan. Of course, you know that my human brother is named, Tristan!

    Aha, I note you apawlogise for not pawsting much lately. My human, Gary, apawlogises for actually putting up a pawst! Arf!

    Pawsitive wishes and doggy kisses,

    Penny xx

  14. You are so right about the difference between our children and our books. I love watching how my kids change and grow. Awesome. You mentioned Chys' book 30 Seconds. Great story!

  15. I don't have children, but I've always considered my books to be my children. :)

    You're so kind, Lisa! I understand. No worries that you weren't able to post before. You posted now and that counts. :) Thank you so much!

  16. Interesting perspective. You're right about the differences.

  17. Yes, it's definitely true a book will take on a mind of its own. How many times have I tried a scene one way, but it takes a different approach. Non-writers would have NO idea what that means. LOL
    I forgot your sons name is Tristan, so is mine. I love that name.

  18. Happy Birthday to your son! You are so right, our books are our babies too. I love seeing my kids with their kids but I so often miss them little. My books, I am SO happy to see them in the hands of others.

  19. That's a great analogy! When I wrote my short story, I had a character who took on a mind of his own. I had never really understood that phenomenon until I experienced it for the first time. I hope your son had a great birthday!

  20. Kids who turn out well are a real joy to have. It's good to hear of your blessings.

    I agree that once a work has been published that it should not be altered--at least not in any radical way that creates an inherent change. Hope you get movie rights one day--that would be exciting.

    Arlee Bird
    Wrote By Rote

  21. Happy Birthday to your son!
    I love the analogy between the books and the kids. (A plus is that books don't sulk or pout or throw tantrums)
    Yes, children are never finished, they are constantly growing...evolving...and that's the way it should be.

  22. Congrats on your son's 29th! You've obviously done a fine job parenting, so he'll be able to do all his own improvements and refinements from now on. As to books published, huge sigh! No more edits.

  23. What a wonderful analogy! I anxiously await the day there are no more edits on one of my babies...

  24. Wonderful to see Chrys and her book here!

    Hope your holidays were fun. May your 2016 be filled with all the best hings in life. :)


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